What do you do all day? I get asked that question more than you would think (ok, maybe you think it would be a question often asked, so I should say more than I would think.) It’s funny because when I worked no one ever asked me what I did all day. I guess because I had a boss, so they felt like if someone was telling me what to do, I was busy. I find it an interesting question and one that is hard to answer. You see I actually have a life. (SHOCKING huh?!?!) Just because my boys are in college (in three different states!) and my husband works full time there is still stuff to do.
I belong to two Bible study groups as a participant, one Bible study as a teacher and one prayer group. They are varied groups to be sure!! One is couples, one is older women, one is teen age girls and the other is peers. The most interesting part to me is the commonality across the groups. We are all at different stages in our lives yet we all have similar struggles. It is never dull y’all!
Also, my husband still likes to eat (WHAT?!?!) plus our clothes and house still need to be cleaned. Yes there is less laundry and mess but they both still have to be done. What you don’t realize too, is that once you are in your home all day you begin to notice all that has been left undone over the years. OOPS! I daily find rooms that need painting, furniture that needs sprucing up and closets that need cleaning out. Be honest, who doesn’t keep a running list of things that have to be done around the house??? Some days I wear myself out cleaning out a cabinet that no one will ever notice simply because it needs to be done.
So just to answer your question people, I have plenty to do all day every day. That doesn’t mean I do it… but it’s there waiting on me. And as soon as I finish this book I’m gonna go get started.
I am not a morning person. Nope, not even a little bit. I love my sleep. So for me to get up at 5:30AM every Friday during the school year is a big deal people… a BIG deal. (remember I don’t have a job and could sleep til noon if I wanted… not that I do … not very often anyway) So when I tell you I am joined by up to 35 teenage girls, you should pay attention. Teen girls are beautiful, complicated souls and being the mother of three boys I have come to appreciate all they entail. They also LOVE their sleep so when they join me it’s an even bigger deal!!
We don’t get together for coffee or to workout. Nope. We get together to study the Word of God. Not sugar coated, not politically correct, but the plain and simple truth of God. We talk about the hard stuff like boys and modesty (Modest is Hottest!), the easy stuff like daily prayer and everything in between. The funny thing is that I have learned just as much from these girls as they have from me. Sure I was a teenage girl once upon a time in a land far, far away but I’ve been in the world of testosterone for so long now that I’ve forgotten much of what I knew! I’ve learned that girls eat… a LOT and are beautifully healthy when they do that. I have learned that nothing sounds sweeter than a group of girls laughing at 6:45am even when they’re laughing at me (ok, there are sweeter sounds but I’m making a point here… WHAT? Just living the truth) I have also learned that girls want to please the boys they are so madly in love with at the moment and I have learned that girls can learn from their mistakes. Most importantly of all, I have learned that I’m going to love being a mother-in-law. (no rush boys!)
There are three of us that lead the study- Kathy, Leigh and me. Between us we have seven sons and ZERO daughters. This is not by accident. You see those of us without daughters want to help raise up a generation of Godly women for our sons to marry. It’s common knowledge that husbands tend to spend more time at their wives families for holidays so were just trying to building up some alliances. I kid! I kid! But when this opportunity came up, I thought what if I have the opportunity to teach a future daughter-in-law? In Bible Study no less?? How cool would that be? Do I seriously think my boys will marry one of these girls? It’d be great if they did but if these girls don’t marry one of my boys, they will be marrying someone’s boys. So my prayer is that the girls my sons will marry are at their own Bible Study somewhere being taught by women like Kathy, Leigh and me.
I’ve done this long enough to see some grow in their faith as they go to college and to see some turn their back on their faith as well. But the truth is this, I’m just called to plant seeds in the hopes that one day they will remember a piece of scripture, word of advice or Godly truth just when they need it most. The byproduct for me is getting to know some AMAZING Christian teen girls, understanding what they are seeking in a mate, learning how to deal with my future daughters-in-law and seeing the joy when they discover that the truth is truth not matter what the world says.
So if you’re looking for me on a Friday morning during the school year, look early and listen out for the laughter of teenage girls… and do me a favor, bring a LARGE cup of coffee for me OK? Thanks